What's Special About Fatema?
Fatema has graced us already with her presence as a Special Guest on the 2-episodes program “5 key ingredients to make a captivating presentation” (Part 1 and Part 2), where she shared her expert knowledge regarding creating presentations that are unique and memorable. However, in the meantime we have discovered that Fatema has an amazing personal story to share, and we have decided to feature her journey on our bi-weekly LIVE SHOW.
Before you listen to the recording, please read her story (as posted on the Inspire Young India Instagram) - and trust us, this was only a little teaser for what we’ve heard while talking with Fatema :)
“I was a topper at school and Doctor, Engineer, CA were thought to be the natural choices.
But I loved drawing.
In a very conservative town, I was fortunate to have a family that encouraged me to be ambitious and explore my talents irrespectively. I applied for Interior Design but my art teacher suggested Commercial Art. And so I joined JJ Institute of Applied Art.
In my third year, at the age of 20, I got engaged. I didn't know if I was ready for a life changing decision like that, but social conditioning kept me from questioning it. I won a Silver medal in my final year, after which I worked at a mainstream Advertising agency in Mumbai for 2 months. My academic side pointed me towards the Masters Program at Industrial Design Centre IIT.
While at IDC, I broke my relationship. It came with a massive guilt. I just knew I needed time to understand myself. After IDC, I didn't want to join the mainstream advertising again. When an Information Design company in Goa offered me a position at a salary comparable to Mumbai, I decided to take up the job.
I worked there for 4 years and that is where I met my husband. I got married in Goa and with that my own cultural community expelled me. At work I was handling both design and business towards the end of my stint and that took a toll. I burnt out and quit to give myself a break. That quickly followed with me working with another Design startup in Goa for 1.5 years.
Meanwhile my husband decided to study and pursue a Masters in design abroad. I decided to move with him. I applied to LEGO in Denmark and got a call. I had never flown abroad. My first ever international flight was for the interview with LEGO. Before I got back home, I got the job.
Looking back, I couldn't have planned this. I believe in being open, taking the opportunity and being surprised at the end of it. I've been in Denmark for four years now.
In 2017, I lost my mom. Suddenly. She met with a small road accident and things cascaded quickly. Before losing my mom, I thought I was in a good spot, however her death has made me question the purpose of life again. I feel we all need a purpose higher than everyday pursuits. I continue to seek. “
Listen to this remarkable interview, where above all, you will learn that being brave is not necessarily about revolutionary quantum leaps about making small courageous moves - one move the time.
We Have Discussed 5 “Facts” about Courage and Social Conditioning:
TRUE OR FALSE?
The society you are born in, determines your character and personality to a huge extent.
Society is a great structure if you want to be an AVERAGE person
Courageous people believe in themselves. They know who they are and what they stand for.
Courageous people are just as shy, anxious and afraid as you and I
In India, education and academics have been the traditional focal points of stress, and parental pressure for children to excel in their studies has been unusually high
We Also Talked About The Results Of The Survey That We’ve Done Among Our Listeners:
I) How rebellious are you?
17% I’m a person that prefers to live a conflict-free, simple life so I conform to norms and rules
8% “Rebellious” is my second name!
59% That depends on the situation - when it comes to the things I really care for, I can be pretty rebellious
8% I wish I could be more rebellious, but I lack courage
8% I think I am getting more and more rebellious with time. I started to be aware that some rules make no sense and I am getting more confident to express my disagreement
II) Have you ever made a decision because of family's pressure or social conditioning?
14% Hahaha, no way! I know how to live my life
7% Yes, I did in the past, and I regret it so now I listen to my own wisdom
7% Yes, but only to get them off my back
72% I try to balance it - I take their opinions into consideration but the final decision is on me
III) Have you ever chosen an education, career, life partner or a place to live in spite of your family’s wish?
40% I don’t need to, my family stands by my choices no matter what they are
20% Yes, but that’s because I don’t care what my family thinks. At the end of the day, it is my life, not theirs
40% In some cases when I am 100% sure of my decision- Yes. In some other situations, especially when I feel insecure, I get influenced by my family quite easily
IV) HAVE YOU EVER MET A PERSON WHOSE RANDOM ADVICE MADE YOU RETHINK YOUR LIFE'S DIRECTION?
8% Yes, once
39% Yes and not even once!
23% Hahaha, no, I think that happens only in movies ;-)
15% No, not really but I would be love to meet someone like that
15% I am not sure
V) HAVE YOU EVER MADE A LIFE-CHANGING DECISION SPONTANEOUSLY?
15% Yes, once.
39% Yes and not even once!
31% Yes, but I realized it was life-changing only from a perspective of time.
15% No, I am not a spontaneous type, to begin with
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